PREJUDICED

Prejudice (old definition): 'to prejudge or to discriminate among an action, a product, a person or an alternative or to evaluate before a full hearing or examination based on established criteria'. 
  

Using this definition I am clearly a prejudiced person. And so are most people who make judgments about almost every aspect of life.  Regarding people as they present themselves I am prejudiced in favor of a person who, though he or she may not have reached a level of perfection in whatever it is that is decent, laudable and worthwhile of doing, is pursuing it assiduously.  I am prejudiced in favor of one who is putting in the study, the time, the effort, the super-effort, the tedium, the discipline, the commitment and the sacrifice that is required for a level of relative perfection in a worthwhile pursuit.

But most of mankind does not do this; most people do not really put out.  They set their sights low or always attempt to duck under the lower threshold.  They don’t expect much of themselves perhaps because they don’t have a vision of what they really could become.  They give in to sloth, inertia, the ‘easy’ way out.  They don’t, as my Dad used to say with some scorn, “make much of themselves.”

For those whom I have prejudged to have the ability to do good things (most people), for them to simply rely on and demonstrate their natural (undeveloped) talent--and feel satisfied with that--is not enough to overcome my prejudice (though it might lessen it somewhat).  Those who I am prejudiced against could be better: they could be the athlete, or musician, or humanitarian, or mother or father, or husband or wife, or civil servant or employee that could raise the bar for others if they would but honor and magnify the native gifts they had been given. But they don’t. They often don't even discover those gifts. And sometimes I don’t, and when I don’t I think less of myself as well. 

Moreover, I think I will never overcome my prejudice against people who pursue non-worthwhile or exploitive goals—especially at the expense of others—such as getting rich, or gaining celebrity, or using other people to achieve their selfish desires and thus keeping those who are the detritus in the path of these ‘users’ of humanity from achieving their own more worthwhile goals or potential.

I am prejudiced against such people because my experience has shown me that when this class of person has let down in some important aspect of their lives they usually let down in some other important aspect--it carries over.  That is why many of these people can never get or hold a job or a spouse; they are unreliable; they are untrue to themselves. It doesn't take a degree in psychology to spot them.   

    

When I have seen an athlete like Olympic skier Mikaela Shiffrin or a political candidate like Ben Carson, MD,  or a humanitarian like Mother Teresa, or a recovering war casualty or a little boy or little girl who has an orthopedic handicap or a life-threatening illness or deprivation overcome it or try to overcome it by total faith in their father or mother or physician or God, then I gladly relinquish my prejudice for there should be none.

  

I am not prejudiced because of a person’s race or color, their heritage or religion or physical or mental handicap; I am prejudiced by the example of one’s repeatedly poor choices, or unworthy values chosen, or cruelty, or infidelity, or sloth, or abuse of body, mind or spirit.  And in my defense, if I need it, though I may continue to be ‘prejudiced’ against those in the last half of the above sentence, I certainly concede I would be wrong to ‘discriminate’ against them by depriving them of their inalienable human rights.  I would not want to do that.  Besides, that is out of my purview.